One of the ways you can begin to handle your limiting thoughts right now is to know that you can stop them. When you know you want to change a habit and become more comfortable with change that you like, you can stop sabotaging yourself.
First Step: Recognize
If you are one of the many that has negative or limiting thoughts, you must decide what they are. Recognizing that you have these thoughts is important because dealing with and changing them can be easier when you know that you have them.
The important thing to realize is that you are going to have negative thoughts, but that does not mean you are going to allow them to take over your life. If you realize that you are going to revisit the thought 8 times or more a day 10 minutes a time, you are better off to become aware of them. Recognize them, admit them to yourself and think to yourself that you have the same thoughts at times.
Second Step: Decision
Next, take your time to think about the thought itself. Not only do you want to focus on the negative aspect of it and what unwanted emotion and consequence you hope it can produce for you when you have these thoughts, but also do not place any judgment on what it does produce.
Give it some thought. The thought itself is not bad itself. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a good person for having such thoughts. The thing to think is that when you become consistent concerning your negative thinking and bad feelings from time to time, you have eliminated much of the need for them in life. They will always be there, but not going to be able to hurt you anymore even when you unconsciously allow yourself to be hurt by them.
Third Step: Time to Be Upright
Now, once you realize your self sabotage, it is time for you to be right with yourself. What do we mean? We mean that which supports the recognition that you are doing something wrong and are finding yourself in situations where it would be better to stop yourself and do what you should rather than do what you aren’t supposed to do.
This is when you can decide on a different behaviour and have the strength to follow through to make that change in your life for the better.
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4 Ways to Self Sabotage Effortlessly
One way to change and become more aware of your self sabotage patterns is by using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) when you find yourself in a self-imposed or otherwise self-sabotaging situation. EFT is a unique bodily experience that creates immediate release of stress and the energetic body mind connection through tapping or using key acupressure points on the body to balance off the many subtle energies. It frees the mind, body, and heart from the limitations of thought and the resulting destructive thought patterns. The mind becomes clear and you can look at yourself in the mirror to give yourself a self-acknowledgement that you are doing well in life.
Learn the art of noticing when your self sabotage takes place. Training yourself to notice these areas can help you avoid them and make a positive change in your life and your relationships. By doing this you will help yourself to feel less despair and more joy when it comes to handling the trials and tribulations you often come upon during your life. You can start by asking yourself to notice when you’re feeling angry, rather than quickly losing your temper.
Building this type of self awareness will help you manage your self sabotage as well as help you eliminate the limiting thoughts and emotions that keep you locked in your cycles of indecision and regret.
The inner critic or gremlin is an example of a self-saboteur.
Unfulfilled hopes, emotional needs not being met, and less than self-love can create inner self-sabotage, and repeating this pattern in your subconscious mind will ensure that you end up feeling, and believing, that you have little faith of your ability to live up to your hopes, feel your own needs, and meet the needs of yourself and others in the world around you.
Stop Your Self Sabotage By Following Your Instincts
Strengthen your self-awareness and recognize when it is time to make changes. Then when you want to correct things in your life, you will be confident in your ability to take care of what is keeping you from becoming the person you know you have the potential to be. You will soon become happier and more content in your own skin.
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