Roots and Wings Video Blog

Today I wished my son and his girlfriend a bon voyage at London Heathrow airport as they begin their life in Singapore. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdIbNnjrrXQ … [Read more...]

The Power of Self Talk + My Love/Hate Relationship with my Nike Trainers

Here's a short video on self talk....you know that voice that is running constantly in the background! Leave a comment and let me know what your 'thing' is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHfih4upiNw&feature=em-upload_owner … [Read more...]

Show Don’t Tell | How to Create an Irresistible Dating Profile

Changing the Face of Dating Profiles. Most online dating profiles are deadly boring right? Why? Because most people, once they register on a site, just want to fill in the blank spaces of the template as quickly as possible, so they can begin actually dating. It’s also likely that you're registered on more than one site which means that you're faced with a number of blank templates to complete. The typical solution to the dilemma? Copy/paste. The result: drab, unoriginal profiles … [Read more...]

When Was The Last Time You Did Something For The First Time?

I was putting some thoughts together for my upcoming ebook on dealing with the invisibility that many of us feel in midlife and I came across this question... Does lacking in confidence now mean that you'll never do anything risky, adventurous or challenging ever again?  And it got me thinking. You see, I've been putting off doing something for a very, very long time. In fact my youngest set it for me as my New Year's Resolution and it's taken me 6 weeks to do it! But I did do it and I … [Read more...]

Alternative Resolutions….because the usual ones just don’t work!

New Year's Resolutions...Again

What if instead of setting the usual soon-to-be-broken New Year’s Resolutions this year, what if you looked at it in a different way? What are the biggest resolutions people set? Weight loss? Getting fit? Finding love? Giving up smoking? Drinking less? Guess what, by the end of the January, sadly most will have fallen by the wayside. No diet, no going to the gym, cigarettes and booze. So let’s look at this from a different perspective Instead why not ask yourself this question. How … [Read more...]

So how was it for you? Was 2014 a good year or one you’re happy to leave behind?

Reflection on 2014

Do you have any rituals for the end of the year? Do you take any time to review how the past year went or do the years simply blend from one into another without pause? I think it’s a good thing to do and it's something I encourage my clients to do. It's a valuable exercise to take some time in silence with a journal and your thoughts reflecting  back over the year that has passed. It’s good to be mindful and take stock. Our lives pass by so very quickly and there is value in stopping … [Read more...]

The Irresistible Saskia Nelson aka Saturday Night’s Alright

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For those of you following me on Facebook you'll no doubt have noticed that I'm just a little excited at the moment. You know how sometimes you meet someone and just know that you're going to be great friends (it happened with my friend Maureen whom I met on Twitter!). There's instant chemistry, you're on the same wavelength....you're almost finishing each other's sentences. Yes? Well this is what happened the first time Saskia Nelson and I met for a coffee in Soho. So, I'd like to formally … [Read more...]

21 Questions: A New Way of Thinking About Your Midlife

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Hello! Did you know that most people spend more time planning their 2 week summer holiday than they do planning their lives? I guess when I was told that it sadly didn’t come as a huge surprise. Asking questions is at the very heart of coaching. Coaching is not about telling you what to do. Coaching is about guiding you to find the answers yourself. My philosophy is that you are the expert on your life, not me. My role is to help you uncover those answers. I’ve created an ebook of 21 … [Read more...]

Monday Morning Food for Thought – 3rd November 2014

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“Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.” ~Cherokee Proverb Guilty as charged on this one my friends. And it's what I need to read and digest and learn from today. I woke this morning with yesterday's not so good soundtrack in my head. It's already wasted some of my day and barged into my morning meditation. I like this Cherokee wisdom, it's simple and profound. Are you guilty of this too? Have a very happy Monday Rebecca x … [Read more...]

40 Words of Wisdom for our Children

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This post appeared in the Huffington Post during the summer and resonated with a lot of people. I have been overwhelmed with the feedback I got from it, from teenagers telling me that their father sent it to them and that they loved it, to grandparents telling me that my words meant a lot to them and were still relevant to them today. I'm beyond grateful if there is such a thing. I'm sharing it here you with my friends in case you didn't see it. I've decided that if I needed a sign then this … [Read more...]

Maithri Goonetilleke + How to Inspire Teenagers

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My boy returned from school on Friday following their weekly Lower Sixth lecture from 'a man, mum, who talks about the same stuff as you,...maybe you're not so weird after all.' I worry at times (the down and self doubting times) that I’m not equipping my children for the hard slog of reality in this tough world. I know I’m someone who lives with their head in the clouds (some call it la la land), I know my feet are not often on the ground. I know I look for the positive in everything. And I … [Read more...]

Listen to the Words in your Head

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I've got a question for you, it's something that comes up time and again with clients and I'm curious to know your response. Did I mention it's something I would do well to ask myself as well? Would you speak to your best friend (that's your BFF) the way you speak to yourself? Well, do you? Hmmm, no I didn't think so. We all speak to ourselves, every single one of us. There is no getting away from the internal chatter. For some it's a constant stream of dialogue (myself included). For … [Read more...]

Raw and Real

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There are times that life is a hard struggle and right now is one of them. I get overwhelmed with the persistent, jabbering, all consuming thoughts in my head and I’m exhausted. Utterly exhausted. I make up stories that have absolutely no basis in fact yet are totally real in my head. I can believe utter nonsense to my core and it terrifies me. I can tell myself the most outrageous lies and believe them. These are my demons. Please tell me that I’m not the only one? There are times that my dear, … [Read more...]

The Marriage Box

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I came across this the other day and wanted to share it with you.  I believe these are wise words and can apply to all relationships we are in whether romantic, familial or business. Just tweak the words to suit the relationship! Do we start new relationships and friendships believing in this myth that the box is already full? Or with age do we realise and appreciate that all interactions with others require effort? Someone once said to me in response to me saying I was lucky to have such good … [Read more...]

The Importance of Self Nurture

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I’ve just been for a pedicure. Some of you might be saying ‘yes….and so?’, others might be thinking ‘how extravagant’. I’m thinking self nurture. It cost me £30 and lasted around 45 minutes. The polish was shellac so I know whatever bashing into things I do the polish will look wonderful for many weeks (and probably months to come). I could have spent that £30 on other things - food shopping, money towards the gas bill but I chose to spend it on myself in what is for me one of the most luxurious … [Read more...]

Your Dream Doesn’t Have an Expiration Date.

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Midlife is a time of great awakening if we allow ourselves to believe so. I'm not sure how many women realise this. I think too many are on the treadmill of life and don't stop to look up and breath let alone stop to smell the roses. Let this be the sign (that picture over on the right) that perhaps you didn't even know you were looking for! How many dreams have been put on the back burner? How many delicious plans did you have when you were in your 20s or 30s? I keep a journal and … [Read more...]

Making Every Day Count

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Why is it that for most of us it’s not until a crisis occurs that we make changes to our lives? Do we honestly believe we are Peter Pan living in Never Never Land? Why do we never face our mortality until we’re looking at it face to face or we live with someone who is or a parent or friend is having to face the inevitable until we confront it? Why is it we muddle along in a career that is unsatisfying and frankly draining the very life out of us complaining day in and day out but not doing … [Read more...]

Uh Hello…I’m Over Here

You know I’m tired and fed up and sad of reading about women in midlife feeling that they have become invisible. They say they walk into a room and nobody notices them. I hear stories of lack of confidence and low self esteem, of women telling me they feel they no longer have any value in the world. This makes my heart break. I so long for you to feel valued, confident, respected, in your groove, alive and vibrant once again. So, I’m creating something just for you! It’s called Uh … [Read more...]

Phenomenal Women

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Maya Angelou shone her light. She touched the lives of many. She could so well have become a victim to her circumstances, raped as a young girl, a single mum as a teenager and a prostitute at one time. Instead she stood tall, she did not play small, she grabbed life and taught us all. She was a civil rights activist, a poet and author, a dancer, a professor, a film director, a playwright and an actress. She will be missed. Her legacy lives on in all those whose lives she touched with her grace … [Read more...]

Not so Full of the Joys of High Spring?

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Goodness me, May is almost over. It’s one of my favourite months of the year, not only because it's my birthday and I love any excuse to celebrate, but I love that it brings us another month closer to summer, my favourite season. May brings us longer, warmer days to enjoy and a chance to bare, if we dare, our legs and arms after a long winter hiatus! I find people more open to chatting and smiling when the weather warms up. But, let's say you've woken up not quite filled with the joys of high … [Read more...]