Juno’s Dad


"Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with." ~Mac MacGuff Juno is one of my favourite films. Juno is a super cool, quirky, articulate 16 year old who finds herself pregnant after having sex for the very first time. She decides to keep the baby and give … [Read more...]

Be You. Don’t Hide It.

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Be You. Don’t Hide It. Imagine how different our lives would be if we did truly live this way. Who is the ‘you’ you hide? What does she have to say to the world? What will it take for her to be heard? Where is there abundance in your life? There is abundance in my life.  I am loved and I love in return. I am healthy and happy. I am cared for, my needs are met. Joseph Campbell advised us to follow our bliss. When we seek our own happiness, far from being a selfish act it allows … [Read more...]

Take 10

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDoaQeQywDo I have explored meditation many times. For years I practiced yoga and meditation was very much a part of my weekly practice in class. Meditation has always appealed to me as a way of dealing with the stresses and strains of modern life. I wonder how differently I might have coped during the most stressful recent past had I continued in making meditation part of my daily practice? Instead I drank coffee and wine and became fully immersed in the … [Read more...]

Waterloo and City Line


I'm excited to share something special with you. A few days before Christmas I was catching up with a friend. We'd not seen each other in a long time.  Something happened that evening which we both felt was worth writing about and sharing.  Here it is. I hope you enjoy it and take something from it. Your comments as always are most welcomed.     Rebecca....... So there I was sitting on the sofa with Claire whom I'd not seen for over a year. We were celebrating life with a … [Read more...]

Rediscovering Courage – in Life, in Love and in Myself

I have it within me

A few days ago I received an email from a very dear friend. A friend who has been battling for some time now on issues of courage, self belief and self worth. She and I have been through much together with our marriages, our divorces and our children. She is right there in the centre of my inner circle. My heart has ached for her this past year. I have always had faith that she would find her way out of this bleak, dark tunnel. Her email inspired me to write, (a passage of which is written … [Read more...]

Rise Up. Act. This is it.

Today's not a warm-up. It's not a dress-rehearsal. There is no second act. What you do with it. Where you take it. Who you bring. These things matter. No do-overs. No tomorrows. No gimme's or get-backs. No single moment holds more power. Nor potential than this. To bless or fail. This, too, shall not pass. Nor yearning manifest. Until you own it all. Rise up. Act. This is it. This poem was written by Jonathan Fields, it resonated with me and I'd like to share it with you. It … [Read more...]

An Apple a Day


Recently I had the pleasure of sitting down for a peppermint tea (actually mine was a coffee!) and a chat with Geraldine McColgan. Geraldine is a Nutritional Therapist who trained at the acclaimed College of Naturopathic Medicine in London. I wanted to speak with her about the importance of good nutrition in midlife. What we should be eating and probably more importantly what we should be eating less of. I'm thrilled that Geraldine and I will be collaborating, we are in the early stages of … [Read more...]

My Concrete Shoes

Red Shoes

I had a dream at the start of the year, perhaps it was one of those dreams where you're not sure if you're awake or asleep, conscious or unconscious, at dawn or thereabouts. You know the time of night where your thoughts can be at times fear filled and catastrophising or magical and highly creative. I was wearing concrete shoes. They were agony on my feet and I was attempting to live my life in them. Life was hard, I was virtually immobile and when I did manage to move it was with great pain, … [Read more...]

There is More to Life than Increasing its Speed

'Nothing is worth more than this day. You cannot relive yesterday  and tomorrow is beyond your reach' --Goethe Several years ago at the outset of all the changes that have recently taken place in my life I was talking to my coach about my constant feeling of breathlessness, feelings of permanently running to keep up with myself. Racing up the stairs, never walking anywhere, always desperate to cram another job, another activity into an already overloaded schedule. And then it hit me, I … [Read more...]

Psst..pull up a chair, let me tell you a story about words…


  Funny isn’t it how much we believe and take as fact much of what we’re told when we’re young? I grew up with the words of my English teacher resonating in my head. I remember as if it were yesterday the sheer humiliation I felt at 12 as my teacher slammed down my exercise book onto the desk in front of the whole class. How is it she said that I shone in French, Latin and Welsh…but that in English I showed “absolutely no imagination.” How those words stung. Little did I … [Read more...]

My 3am Tribe

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Saturday evening I sat at my dining room table surrounded by some extraordinary women. If asked none would consider themselves to be extraordinary, they would say that they are simply ordinary women getting on with their fairly ordinary lives. Yet, put a group of ordinary women together and magic happens. Ordinary becomes extraordinary. These women and a number of others who couldn't be around my table form my tribe. We are stronger because of our tribe. These are women I could call at … [Read more...]

The Beauty of Imperfection


We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks. That's what connects us--that we're all broken, all beautifully imperfect - Emilio Estevez How many times do we put off doing something because we believe we're not ready, we're not perfect? How long are we going to delay living our lives because we've got a back log of excuses. How many times are we aware of hearing ourselves say 'should, must, ought, have to'? What does your list of excuses look like? I know mine inside out! How does your … [Read more...]

Making a Habit of Solitude

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There are voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world -- Ralph Waldo Emerson How often do you allow yourself to experience real solitude? I mean time that you consciously choose to spend alone? Time that you've carved out purely for yourself? Hmmm, I thought so. For those of us rarely alone, those of us who give of ourselves to others in our work and our family lives, creating time of solitude can seem like an impossible task. If we are … [Read more...]

…………..and Breathe.


So how do you ease stress in your life? We all suffer from stress of one sort or another and stress is good for us in the right quantity. Some of us deal with it better than others and some of us have more than our fair share to deal with at any one time. We're not looking to get rid of stress, we're just looking for ways to ease and deal with it without it consuming every waking (and sleeping) hour. Unless you're Jack Johnson who gives the impression of being utterly laid back and without a … [Read more...]

My Rules to Live By

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The other day I read an inspiring post on Positively Positive by Jennifer Pastiloff and it got me thinking about my own 'rules' for living. What are the keys to living my life fully and happily? What can I not do without? What do I do without question everyday? Here are my rules to live by, leave yours in the comments box below for us  to read and share - how inspiring will that be! Love, be kind and be gentle to myself....especially when I'm most in need. Then love, be kind and be … [Read more...]

If Your Dream Gets Stuck Before It’s Started…


Here's a guest post from my friend and mountain guide extraordinaire Sarah Maliphant. There's a link at the end to an extraordinary offer....well worth a look if you want some time for yourself. The moment that made the difference to my career direction and vocation was a question. This question found the way through my mountain-sized uncertainties, a good smatter of insecurities, a dream that felt too big to dare, and a host of, “Yes but...” practical details. Suddenly all that stuff … [Read more...]

The Four Agreements – a practical guide to personal freedom

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I'm often asked what books I read, what inspires me, what helps and supports me. So thought I'd share a book I was handed over 9 years ago and told to read! Today I'm re-posting a blog (with a few changes and additions) that I wrote over a year ago as it is still the book that has the most profound effect on my life. I don’t think any other book has stuck with me in quite the same way.  The Four Agreements fulfils a spiritual need in me in just the same way that Pride and Prejudice does … [Read more...]

New Beginnings

light walk

This morning I received Decree Absolute. The dissolution of my marriage is final and absolute. How do I feel? Full of emotion. I feel overwhelming relief and at the same time I feel overwhelming sadness. I feel the need to grieve. Grief is vital to growth and healing. I need to feel the full force of the emotion in order to heal fully. To ignore and put aside is what poisons. I feel the need to read the poems of Mary Oliver who wrote so eloquently in Wild Geese You do not have to … [Read more...]

Finding Your Own North Star


"There's no need to wait for the bad things to be over. Change now. Love now. Live now. Don't wait for people to give you permission to live, because they won't."                 --Kris Carr I'm doing a lot of reading at the moment, I have almost a dozen books by my bedside - from spiritual and new age to novels, from classics to magazines, and of course my journal in which I write every morning before I start my day - it's my form of meditation. The one I can't put down right now … [Read more...]

Simple Kick-Ass Advice.


When I posted a few weeks ago that I was stepping back awhile to nurture myself during a particularly turbulent time in my life I found myself overwhelmed with love, support and goodwill that came my way in phone calls, texts, messges of all sorts. What you are about to read also came from a very dear friend and I'm thrilled to introduce Jacq as the first guest writer on Best Knickers Always. Woo hoo!! Thank you Jacq for being an incredible support and soul sister. I'm know those that follow … [Read more...]