Your Dream Doesn’t Have an Expiration Date.

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Midlife is a time of great awakening if we allow ourselves to believe so. I'm not sure how many women realise this. I think too many are on the treadmill of life and don't stop to look up and breath let alone stop to smell the roses. Let this be the sign (that picture over on the right) that perhaps you didn't even know you were looking for! How many dreams have been put on the back burner? How many delicious plans did you have when you were in your 20s or 30s? I keep a journal and … [Read more...]

Making Every Day Count

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Why is it that for most of us it’s not until a crisis occurs that we make changes to our lives? Do we honestly believe we are Peter Pan living in Never Never Land? Why do we never face our mortality until we’re looking at it face to face or we live with someone who is or a parent or friend is having to face the inevitable until we confront it? Why is it we muddle along in a career that is unsatisfying and frankly draining the very life out of us complaining day in and day out but not doing … [Read more...]

Uh Hello…I’m Over Here

You know I’m tired and fed up and sad of reading about women in midlife feeling that they have become invisible. They say they walk into a room and nobody notices them. I hear stories of lack of confidence and low self esteem, of women telling me they feel they no longer have any value in the world. This makes my heart break. I so long for you to feel valued, confident, respected, in your groove, alive and vibrant once again. So, I’m creating something just for you! It’s called Uh … [Read more...]

Phenomenal Women

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Maya Angelou shone her light. She touched the lives of many. She could so well have become a victim to her circumstances, raped as a young girl, a single mum as a teenager and a prostitute at one time. Instead she stood tall, she did not play small, she grabbed life and taught us all. She was a civil rights activist, a poet and author, a dancer, a professor, a film director, a playwright and an actress. She will be missed. Her legacy lives on in all those whose lives she touched with her grace … [Read more...]

Not so Full of the Joys of High Spring?

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Goodness me, May is almost over. It’s one of my favourite months of the year, not only because it's my birthday and I love any excuse to celebrate, but I love that it brings us another month closer to summer, my favourite season. May brings us longer, warmer days to enjoy and a chance to bare, if we dare, our legs and arms after a long winter hiatus! I find people more open to chatting and smiling when the weather warms up. But, let's say you've woken up not quite filled with the joys of high … [Read more...]

Monday Morning Food for Thought – 26th May 2014

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Our own feelings of self worth, our inner happiness, joy we find in life, our wisdom, how we value and nurture ourselves are what make us beautiful. It really has nothing to do with the superficial, skin deep beauty.   Who are the beautiful women that inspire you? Are you one of them?   I'm putting together a fabulous eCourse for you, all about midlife, obviously! If you're feeling invisible, could do with a boost in confidence and self esteem them keep your eyes open in … [Read more...]

Monday Morning Food for Thought – 19th May 2014

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"I think failure is so important. I've been fortunate to meet extraordinary people and not one of them didn't have their failure. It's the ability to use failure that often heads to success. Rock bottom wasn't fun at all, but it was liberating. What did I have to lose?" ~JK Rowling We never seem to view it that way do we. We view 'failure' as fatal and final and catastrophic.  What if we view failures in our life as the bedrock on which we are able to build strong and solid foundations? How … [Read more...]

Comfort Zones and Vulnerability

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Earlier this week I received the email I've been longing for from my publishers..... 'We're going to print later this week.' I was overjoyed, elated, whooping and doing a dance in my kitchen. My book, my baby Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife was finally going to the printers. My ever patient partner texted me to say, 'So now do you believe?' Yes, now I did indeed believe and I could breathe....for a moment. Because another email arrived shortly afterwards to say, 'We're actually … [Read more...]

Living a Life With No Regrets

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We waste so much of our time regretting. And it has the potential by the time we've got to midlife to get a little out of control. We regret what we did and we regret what we didn't do. This way of thinking acts to keep us living in the past. The past is gone. No amount of regretting will bring it back in order that we can make different decisions. The present is what we have. The future is a dream. What can you do today to make sure that you live this day forward with no … [Read more...]

Writing Workshop: Discovering Self Expression

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I was dragged kicking and screaming to writing by my coach. You see I couldn't write. That's what I told myself. I never even dreamed of becoming a writer. When people used to say 'Oh everyone has a book in them' my response was always, 'Not me!' According to my English teacher, I couldn’t write. I was told I had no imagination. I believed her for 35 years... 2007 saw the beginning of major upheaval in my life and I turned to writing a journal to make sense of the chaos in my head and in … [Read more...]

Taking Stock and Spending Quality Time with Alexander Fleming

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I've been a naughty girl. I've been pushing myself to extremes and thinking I could get away with it. You see, I'm never ill. And then when I get something it flattens me.  A full blown chest infection is not pleasant. At least the 20 stone wrestler kneeling on my chest making it very difficult to breathe has gone! Thank God for Alexander Fleming! So what have I learned? We have one beautiful body in which we reside - feed it, nurture it and love it. Ignore it at our peril. I am loved … [Read more...]

When the Going Gets Tough

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I think it's fair to say that life is no picnic. There are times in our lives that are seriously challenging. I've been there and will no doubt be there again. You may well be going through a really tough time right now. Here are my thoughts. When the going gets tough remember this.... This too will pass. Nothing is forever. Simply knowing this helped me remain sane when my life felt like it was imploding. Focus on what is working and celebrate this. Believe me, there will be … [Read more...]

Ditch the Resolutions

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Well that's a little controversial for the first week of January don't you think? Aren't resolutions simply to-do-lists for the first couple of weeks of January that we write because everyone says we should? How about instead committing to making some real, long lasting change this year? Yes, but how do I do that? Start by getting yourself a beautiful notebook....go on, I'll be waiting right here for you.... Ready? Start by writing a list of all the things you'd love in your … [Read more...]

Fact: People Don’t Think About Us As Much As We Think They Do…

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  'At age 20, we worry about what others think of us.  At age 40, we don't care what they think of us.  At age 60, we discover they haven't been thinking of us at all.'  ~ Ann Landers (1918-2002) I posted this on Facebook last week and I don't think I've ever had so much response! It touched a chord with many of you. I thought about it and wondered what it was that resonated? Here are my thoughts - Some of us really have got to that point where we really don't care what … [Read more...]

Parenting Through the Teenage Years

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This post first appeared on Huffington Post Parents I am a mother to three children, my eldest son is 23, my daughter is 20 and my youngest son is 15. I am proud to say that I have loving and respectful relationships with all three of them... but that wasn't always so, in case you think that I'm some kind of superwoman! We have dealt with divorce in our family, a divorce which I instigated. I was the one to tell my children that I was leaving their father after 21 years of marriage. I … [Read more...]

Whoa There Cowboy

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The trouble with a vivid imagination is that not only does this enable me to create a compelling future for myself and my family, my very own real life nirvana it also means that I get to create my very own living hell. Right here. Today. A feeling of frustration or a feeling of life’s a bit troublesome right now can easily become catastrophised and the path of despair that I was having a gentle saunter down turns into a full on run down this less than salubrious road. Let me give you an … [Read more...]

What Movie Genre Best Describes Your Life?

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I've been thinking about this a lot recently, whether it's overhearing conversations or reading about people's lives on Facebook or working with clients and also at times in my own life.....there's an awful lot of drama out there. I have worked really hard in the past removing the drama from my life. I got so fed up and bored of my own voice from retelling the same old poor me story to different friends (frankly anyone who'd listen) in order to get sympathy/approval/hugs/acknowledgement … [Read more...]

Today I Am Grateful For:

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“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart. How many of us stop to consciously give thanks and show our gratitude? Yes, in passing without much thought we often say ‘thanks’ – to the person who held the door open for us, to the barista for our cappuccino, to the girl on the checkout in the supermarket, a wave of acknowledgment as someone let’s us out into the traffic, to our partner for the cup of tea (often without even looking up … [Read more...]

Choose Your Battles…(even those with yourself.)

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"When you fight something, you're tied to it forever. As long as you're fighting it, you're giving it power." - Anthony de Mello. What battles are you fighting at the moment? Do you have an internal struggle going on, resisting something that you know deep down you'd be best to release and let go of? Resisting always comes with pain, emotional yes, and often times physical. Or are you having a battle with someone, a loved one or someone you used to love perhaps? Are you stuck because you … [Read more...]

Circumstances or Decisions?

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Those of you who know me either personally or through my writing will know of my love of quotes, inspiring soundbites for the 21st Century. I find a handful of words used in the right order can literally blow my mind, can reduce me to tears, can inspire me to raise my game, can affirm that I'm doing OK and that all will be well.... I stood on the station platform this morning catching up on emails whilst waiting for the train. I read these words in one of the daily motivational emails I have … [Read more...]